Came across a simple theory of looking at things. So easy yet many are blinded by the thousand of reasons surrounding it.  Read, think and reflect…

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce!

You look for reasons it is not doing well – It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun.

You never blame the lettuce!

Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all.

How many of us would be able to think and not react like the lettuce scenario? Its not impossible but its also not easy. When we arrived a situation when something goes wrong, the first reaction normally will be to put the blame somewhere or on someone. We often neglect the fact that we are part of the mistake.

Simple example of missing the bus. First we would blame the alarm clock, then we blame the weather for making us feel sleepy, then comes the SOP in the morning, then the handbags and everything thats supposed to be in it, then the long run to the stop, then the bus schedule, then and then and then.. the list goes on and on but  no one really would have said ‘I should have just be more discipline and wakes up earlier by maybe going to bed earlier, packing my things before hand and know how much time I need to get ready’  Now how many felt guilty already?